Night terrors and trigeminal neuralgia: a spiritual approach to fear

If one has trigeminal neuralgia, terror can rule the night. I was married when I had pain so horrific that my spouse sometimes awakened me, explaining that he could not sleep because I was screaming. I was amazed by the fact that I could slumber in spite of my physical distress.

I am aware that I am not the only one who has slept through his or her nocturnal pain, but I do not know who shares this experience. When I began my internship for TNA, The Facial Pain Association, I heard that Dr. Joanna M. Zakrzewska would be studying this phenomenon. Although I got an email from her regarding the proposed research topic, I did not hear more about it. I was comforted, however, by knowing I was not the only person with this bizarre story.

Knowing we are not alone in our suffering is part of the validation process. I have taken many calls from individuals who felt they had to explain the pain to me. When they discovered that I had also endured it, I would always hear a sigh of relief. The caller could move onto the questions he or she had for me with assurance that I "got it."

When night falls and people who have TN try to sleep, pain and fear can heighten. One reason is that trigeminal neuralgia, glossopharyngeal neuralgia, and other types of neuropathic facial issues, often get worse when an individual lies down. Also when we are not distracted by the business of the day, pain comes to the forefront of our consciousness. In a future post, I will feature a guest who will address these issues further.

In the night our mind, spirit, and body connection seems to increase. Consider the dreams you have had on occasion, how they revealed your unspoken desires, your deepest fears.

Fear is the enemy of anyone who has trigeminal neuralgia. We are frightened by the electrocution-type pains and wonder how we can endure more of them. After all, anyone who knows that he or she will get struck by lightening in the future has a right to be afraid.

We cannot control the pain, but we can try to reign in the trepidation. How we benefit from the mind, spirit, and body connection? By saying a prayer, we involve all three aspects of our being. Will you read this prayer with me? It is the 23^rd Psalm.

The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me to lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still waters. He restores my soul; He leads me in the paths of righteousness For His name’s sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; For You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; My cup runs over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me All the days of my life; And I will dwell in the house of the Lord Forever.

By reading the prayer, we use both mind and body even if we read silently. And if saying the 23^rd Psalm is done in hopes of having a better night, an individual has employed faith. Prayer could a be the vehicle that helps you begin to mend. 

Faith is like a muscle. If we do not use it, it shrinks to nothing. Pump up! Believe you can get better. 

All I want for Christmas

At this time of year, it's not uncommon for someone to ask me about an appropriate present for an individual who has trigeminal neuralgia or another form of neuropathic facial pain.

You may want to purchase clothing that will help shield your friend or family member's face from the painful cold. If so, you can find some helpful products here.

I don't often endorse products, but I have discovered one that helps me with pain caused by TMJD and cervical issues.

Like many people who have trigeminal and glossopharyngeal neuralgias, I have struggled with finding a pillow. For quite a while, I had a rattan pillow that helped. You can learn more about it here.  I could not find a replacement. Without it, the agony escalated.  One night when I awakened from the pain, I turned on the television and saw informercial about "MyPillow."

I've bought useless things as a result of watching cleverly marketed products via informercials. Have you? Yet this advertisement spoke to my core, and I decided to give it a try.

The first pillow I ordered was a "red" pillow, and it was actually too "tall" for me. I didn't think this could happen because the lack of support for my cervical area seems to cause the problem. Even with this pillow that didn't "fit" me, I noticed that my jaw would open when I rested my head on it, solving the problem of clenching my teeth at night. I knew I was getting close to a solution.

I called the company, and they sent me a "green" pillow. It was too shallow. I sighed and called the company again, and they moved me to "blue," the size between red and green. What really impressed me is this: they told me not to give up because they will make custom size pillows for an individual. But the blue one works just fine. It gives me the support I need and alleviates the pain that crept in night after night. I've been using it several weeks.

Just as the pillow provides support, so does its inventor. I've been charged for postage and the pillows only once. The company told me that they understand that individuals might not order the right item the first time. They send prepaid return shipping boxes and labels, making it simple for someone in pain to feel better.

A good night's sleep is a wonderful gift.

You can learn more about the MyPillow here. Although I give this item my endorsement, I am not affiliated with the company in any way. I don't receive commission from any sale that results from my recommendation.


Merry Christmas and happy holidays.

PillowGate: Losing and finding a place to lay one's head

For reasons too private to discuss, I left my home a mere two weeks after the delivery of the wonderful Stearns and Foster mattress I blogged about this past summer. I took my rattan pillow with me, and I managed to sleep peacefully at times, have nightmares at other times, continued to function, and to dysfunction as well.

The day of moving into my own apartment approached, and my friends (especially the one who had given me a place to stay) held their breath in anticipation. After all, I had been telling them I would feel so much better when I settled into my own place. But what I didn't know was that the person who had gifted me with the cherished rattan item would suddenly decide she didn't want me to have it anymore.The weekend I moved, I sent it back to her.

PillowGate, dubbed as such by my daughter, ensued.

Because I have helped other people look for a rattan pillow, I knew that finding one is virtually impossible. I got angry. I yelled. I cried. Most of all, I lifted things out of necessity that someone with neck and jaw problems shouldn't do. It's difficult to enlist the help of family and friends and then stand by and watch them work. Plus, I had been working out. Confident that the .0001 inch of muscle added to each bicep would allow me to lift things without injuring myself, I trudged on.

The first night in my new place I couldn't sleep because my cervical and jaw pain level was so high.  Night after night I swapped pillows all night long. Finally one morning at 4:00 I gave up, got up from the recliner, and tried to figure out how to work a Swiffer wet jet minus necessary batteries. I turned on the television and brewed a pot of Joe. When I heard someone talking about cervical issues, TMJD, and pillows, I thought I had gone back to sleep and was having another nightmare. But wait... I could smell the coffee!

I walked closer to the television and watched the graphic explaining how this pillow would help my neck. I looked up at the ceiling, wondering if God might be talking to me. Thinking that perhaps He was, I called the toll-free number to mypillow.com. They were experiencing unusually high call volume. Hmmm. Could there be more pillow-fighting athletes out there, other than my friends who have trigeminal neuralgia and facial pain? Perhaps. Not wanting to be in pain any longer than I had to be, I purchased the "firm" pillow via Internet.

Just three days later, it arrived. I followed the instructions by putting it in the dryer for a few minutes before I used it. After a few nights, I realized that a pillow that was actually too high existed. It gave my head and neck great support, but too much of it. I called MyPillow and spoke with a representative and learned that I had ordered an item sized for a linebacker. She helped me select another size, and I am hoping that it will be delivered tomorrow.

I'll let you know how it goes. In the meantime, I am using an accessory pillow. Some nights are better than others. Those of us who experience facial pain know a pillow is something to lose sleep over.

To my friends and family who offered tons of love and support while I made one of life's most difficult decisions, thank you. I love and appreciate you. Even more thanks go to the Lord, who watched over me in my frailty and angst.

March 2013 note from Kathy: more than a year later, I can say that MyPillow has made quite a difference in cervical and jaw pain. My mom also purchased one, and she has noticed a marked improvement in her comfort level. We have the firm pillows with blue writing on their tags. To my knowledge, these cannot be purchased from anywhere but directly from the company. 

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Happy ending: the search for a perfect bed

Almost anyone who has shopped for a bed knows how confusing the process can be. I decided a  traditional mattress was the best choice.

The second part of the journey (see part one) began at Sears in Jacksonville, Florida. Going from Sealy to Serta to Stearns and Foster, the brand most comfortable was Stearns and Foster. The store had at least three models from which to choose.

Here's the caveat: each bed was different on the left side than the right. One side was labeled "plush" while the other was "firm." It was confusing.

At Ashley Furniture, the beds were also different on the left side than the right. But even more disconcerting was the music being played at 10:00, a rhythm appropriate for Zumba dancing. Upon my request the volume was lowered, but I couldn't focus on sleeping when my impulse was to jump up and move my hips.

At Haverty's we found Stearns and Foster mattresses that were the same on the left as on the right. A gentleman named Jonathan Chila led me from one model to the other, including a "silver" bed. It's pictured above.

The silver model (which may be called something different) cradled me, relieving pressure from my neck and jaw when I laid on it.  I bought it. The morning after my first night's sleep, my neck felt better than it had in the morning in years.

Although I have slept well, the rattan pillow I've been using to sleep is now too hard. I use it when I prop up in bed to read. It's taken several nights to get the right combination of pillows, but the beauty of the new bed is that my perfect pillow has turned out to be just a firm, everyday pillow. One.

I made a pricey choice, but I stop and think about the money I've spent on my medical care, and the mattress is worth is worth the cost. That's my experience. What's yours?

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Sleep: Who's got my number?

So many people who have trigeminal neuralgia and other types of facial pain experience discomfort when they lie down. We fight with our pillows, and sleep can be difficult to attain.

Finding my right pillow took years, and if you are interested in learning more about the rattan pillow that works for me, you can find it using the Google search bar that is embedded in my blog. But comfort requires more than a pillow. One's bed is also important.

My daughter and her husband love their Sleep Number Bed, so I decided to give it a try. I visited the store several times, trying to get just the right mattress, the perfect number. My first night, I awoke several times. My right arm kept going numb. I have a lot of different symptoms, but this was my first encounter with arm numbness.  The next morning, I ached from head to toe: head, neck, shoulder, hip, knee, and ankle.

According to the purchase agreement, I had to wait 30 days before sending the bed back. It was packaged up, and in all I spent approximately $380 for shipping. Then I waited more than 30 days for our refund- quite a few more days.

I've noticed that the air mattress beds, similar to Sleep Number, are being stocked in hotels across the country. Now before I book a room, I call the property to ensure that a traditional mattress is there.

I'd like to reiterate that my daughter and her husband are happy with their Sleep Number bed. But I had terrible discomfort three days after spending one night on this type of system. Perhaps there is a perfect number for me, but I am not willing to go through the pain of finding it.

My money was refunded and we have purchased another bed. I'll be blogging about that experience next.

I'd love to hear about your experience. What type of mattress works for you?

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A pillow that reduced my pain: Part Two

The rattan pillow I've been using is placed atop a queen/king sized pillow (in the blue case) pictured above.

For part one of this post, click here.

I've tried to find the product online, but I haven't found a source selling them individually. If you search for "rattan pillow," you will find them being sold in quantity by wholesalers in Asia. It would be great to have a resource for people who have facial pain. Vendor, if you (or if you know of someone) who will sells the item individually, please contact me by email. (withgreatmercy at yahoo dot com)

Be prepared for some initial discomfort if you purchase a rattan pillow. It is hard, and it will take a couple of weeks (at least) to become accustomed to sleeping on it. But it stabilizes my neck and jaw and I had my life back soon after I began sleeping on it.

The pillow is approximately 15 inches wide, 4.5 inches deep, and 9 inches vertical. After I had slept on it a few nights, I took it into my neurologist. The moment he saw it, he realized I had found relief.

Please note that I was not having trigeminal neuralgia pain when I began using this item. My facial pain stems from issues with my jaw and neck.

Be sure to use a place case over the pillow so your face won't come in contact with the rattan. If you cannot get accustomed to the hardness of the surface, you may want to to place a very thin pillow or piece of foam rubber over it.

Those of us who have experienced facial or jaw pain know that what works for one person may not work for another. You may want to consult your practitioner before you try something new.

If you cannot find this item and are interested in something else, please see how my search continued and what I found. Click

Please let me know about your experience with facial pain and your search for the perfect pillow.

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A pillow that reduced my pain level

Jacob found a stone to rest his head against and lay down to sleep, Genesis 28:11.

You may be wondering what this Bible verse has to do with trigeminal neuralgia or other types of facial pain. Or you may be one of us who "fights with the pillow" at night, trying to get comfortable. If you are, I am hoping this post will help you.

The pillow in the picture is a gift from my daughter's mother and father-in-law, Kuei Mei and George. A few months ago, Kuei Mei noticed my neck's limited range of motion and my discomfort. Through my daugher, she sent me a pillow that had been purchased in Asia. When Kelli brought the rattan pillow to me, she began to explain how it might help, and I practically jerked it away from her. I've been looking for the right one for years.

The search began when I worked for the Trigeminal Neuralgia Association. We were having a conference in Dearborn, Michigan and stayed at the hotel where it was held. On the bed was a large decorative pillow that was quite hard. One night when I was tossing and turning, I picked up the huge "cushion" and placed it under my head. I went right to sleep, and I didn't wake up until morning. I used it until we left, and it provided relief every night.

When I got home, I began to fight with my pillow again. I wrote about it on TNA Connect, and someone responded, saying she had the same experience with the decorative pillow at the hotel. Since then, I've looked for one that would give my neck more support, but I never found anything effective.

I longed for Joseph's pillow, one that I could sleep and dream on. That's why the stiff rattan pillow caught my attention immediately.

Although I no longer have trigeminal neuralgia pain, I have a jaw that causes facial pain. I also have cervical spondylosis and bone spurs in my neck.

The day before Thanksgiving, my neck hurt so badly that I could barely function. I had been to the dentist twice that week, one trip being to Lakeland. It put additional strain on my neck. I had no choice but to work on the meal in ten minute increments and then rest for thirty.

I received the pillow Thanksgiving Day. That night I used it, and the next morning my pain was reduced significantly. In fact, I went out to do some Black Friday shopping. My range of motion improved greatly after just one night. My facial pain (which radiates from my jaw and neck) has been greatly reduced. I can move my head to the right and left again. Thank you, Kuei Mei and George, for one of the best gifts I've received.

I'll be following up right away with more information about the pillow. But in the meantime, I'd like to say that I haven't had to take a pain pill since I have used it.

Hallelujah! A follow-up post about the pillow here . And if you cannot find this item and are interested in something else, please see how my search continued and what I found. Click.

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